It has been about a year since I got that big girl job and had to move away from my hometown, parents, and friends. I have never been much of a homebody, and I knew that if I wanted to get a good/dream job, I would most definitely need to move.
It was a very frightening prospect that I would be moving away from a place that I have lived my whole life and leave the people I love most, to a place where I literally knew no one. The only person I did know was my boyfriend and we were originally supposed to live together right when I moved, but you know, shit happens and we decided it would be best if I got my own place.
So at this point in time, I literally could not rely on anyone – I was alone and on my own. I ended up having to move to my new home within four weeks. I also got into a car accident that totalled my car two weeks before I was to move. It literally felt like the world was telling me not to move because I had to find my own place relatively quickly AND I had to buy a new car. But did I quit? Absolutely not, because I knew this job was a fantastic opportunity and I knew I just had to go for it and hopefully have things fall into place.
To this day, I am incredibly grateful that I lived on my own for awhile. It taught me a lot about life and adulting really quick and it also helped me find myself, as cheesy as that sounds. So if you are still completely on the fence about getting out there and getting your own place, keep reading the benefits that I found when I took the plunge (Some benefits were because I didn’t need to shut any doors and I could perform my own concerts whenever I liked. JK, but not really).
You learn that money doesn’t grow on trees, like for real. You have no one else to help you pay the bills or someone paying the bills for you – it’s all you, honey. So in that sense, you learn to budget and you learn to budget fast. When you are trying to furnish your place the first few months, you will literally have no extra money. One way that I furnished my place was of course a little help from the parents, but if you ask around work, most likely you will find a lot of people that are trying to get rid of stuff. As the saying goes, their junk becomes your treasure. Theres also always Craigslist, and I found a lot of cheap well-made furniture on Amazon. You definitely learn to become quite the thrifty shopper.
You learn responsibility. Not only does money not grow on trees, but laundry and chores do not do themselves. You have to learn to juggle doing these necessary tasks with your schedule. You also will become a fabulous cook. My key was finding recipes on Pinterest that looked the least daunting and test them out. Most of the time they came out real good. All you literally need to do it just follow the recipe.
You have peace and quiet. You can literally do whatever you want whenever you want without anyone questioning you or disturbing you. You want ice cream for dinner? Do it. You want to watch Keeping Up with the Kardashians all day long? There’s no one stopping you. Seriously, it can be an amazing thing, especially if you are an introvert like me. I get human interaction during the day at work and then have none when I come home from work. Beautiful.
You learn what you are capable of. To me this is the best benefit for living on your own. You literally learn that you are strong and don’t need anyone to take care of you because you got this. You will look around your place and just be like this is all mine. I made this possible. Yeah not going to lie, it does get tough, but it is worth it.
I could go on and on about all of the benefits, but when it comes down to it, the only person stopping you from doing it is you. So stop thinking and just get your own place already! You will thank yourself later and if your experience is anything like mine, you will grow and become a better person for doing it.
Love – Worldly Redhead